Do You Ever Feel Like You’re Not a Good Enough Christian

I have a confession to make. I don’t always listen to Christian music, sometimes I listen to music with not very Christian themes (and I like the songs.) Some days I cuss (okay most days.) Too many days I don’t open my Bible and some days I am horrible to my fellow humans.  These are all truths in my life, and some days, they make me feel like I am not a good enough Christian. Can anyone relate?

Do you ever feel like you're not a good enough Christian

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Some Days, God is Hard to Hear

I have had days where I could hear God clear as a bell. I felt him, right there next to me, holding my hand and pushing me forward. On other days, I feel like God is just a fantasy creature I have created in my mind. I can’t feel him, I can’t hear him. All I feel is distance.

I see people around me feeling close to God. They tell me about it, they tell me of the warmth they feel. Yet I am still cold. Have you ever had one of those days? They are so hard to pull yourself out of and you can end up feeling like a pretty awful Christian. On those days, these verses from Jeremiah help me feel a little better.

Jeremiah 29:12-14 
12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations and all the places where I have driven you, declares the Lord, and I will bring you back to the place from which I sent you into exile.

When Other Christians Make You Feel Bad

Sometimes well-meaning Christians say things that just rub you the wrong way.  I read this post on the Modest Mom Blog and it really chapped my cheeks.  In the post, she talks about why she only wears skirts.  She tried to be a bit kind by saying she is not convinced wearing pants is ungodly, but I found the whole post condescending against anyone who doesn’t follow her thoughts.

I really wanted to let my fingers fly and challenge her thoughts, throw Bible quotes out left and right and generally just be a brat.  I was mad and hurt and I wanted to strike back.  Not very Christian-like at all.

2 Timothy 2:23
23 Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. 

Sometimes the best thing you can do when someone uses the Bible to make you feel bad, be it intentionally or not, is to turn the other cheek.  If I had chosen to start an argument with this internet stranger, chances are all I would have done was upset both of us, and that doesn’t do anyone any good.

When Other People Seem More Involved in Church

In most churches, there are a lot of opportunities to get involved. Youth ministry, women’s groups, men’s groups, dinners, Bible studies…the list goes on.  Sometimes it feels like there are a few people who attend EVERY church function and by comparison, you feel like a lamo Christian.  I feel you.

This past Wednesday, I was supposed to attend the weekly women’s circle and I forgot.   I mean, I got busy with work, and I just forgot.

Sometimes I look around and see all of these people attending all of these things and think, “wow, I must be a horrible Christian!”

First a truth. There are seasons in your life. Some are busy, some are not. If you look at the people who attend every church function they are usually either retired or have children involved in many of the activities. If that’s not you. It’s okay. While the Bible does encourage fellowship,  not attending every single activity does not make you a bad Christian.

Hebrews 10:23-25
23 Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. 24 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

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When a Bible Verse Makes You Feel Bad

There are a few verses in the Bible that make me feel like a horrible human.

I am divorced and remarried and Matthew 5:32 is one of those verses that makes me feel like crap. To get through this one took a lot of prayers, and I even reached out to my friend Heather from Genuine Stewards for a bit of advice.  Here are a few points that really helped me.

  • Every verse must be taken in context. In this particular verse, Jesus is talking to the church elders, explaining to them the heart of the law must be considered, not just the hard line.
  • We are all sinners. Rember Jesus, he died for all of our sins, not just a select few.
  • We can all seek God’s forgiveness. 

John 3:16
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life

If you have days where you just aren’t feeling like a good enough Christian, turn to the Lord and lean in. I know it’s hard, and I am far from perfect, but I do know God loves each and every one of us. Warts and all. He gives us grace, he gives us forgiveness and most of all he gives us love.

If someone is beating you down with the Bible, turn the other cheek. If you come across a verse that makes you feel awful, pray about it. Reach out to those more knowledgeable than you and get a fresh perspective.



  1. Joleisa

    October 2, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    What an awesome piece! So much of this resonates with me. What I use to remind and reassure myself sometimes is that we are all at different stages in our relationship with God. Also, only He truly knows our heart’s desire and yearning.
    I’ve been known to forget a few church engagements too… thank God He’s forever faithful and never forgets to send me what I need; both good and bad. That’s for another day.

    1. Michele Cook

      October 2, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      Thanks for the kind words Jo. I love your point about being in a different stage of your relationship with God. That is a great way to think about it!

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